Let’s celebrate fathers & father figures this Sunday

Father’s Day: two words that can evoke feelings across the emotional spectrum.

For some it is a time of celebration and gathering; for others possibly a feeling of recent loss or estrangement. For most of us who have lost our fathers it is a time of reflection and, hopefully, of mostly good memories. Some of those fathers were/are biological, some perhaps a “second” dad, or perhaps a grandfather, uncle, or other father figure.

If you are a “stepdad” – or I prefer “second dad” as my husband Bruce was for years until he adopted my sons as adults – you have a very important job to do to find the place in the lives of your children where you can share your wisdom, lend an ear when needed, and love them even when they misbehave or try your nerves! And regardless of how you find yourself placed in the family unit, your leadership skills will make all the difference for your family in the years ahead.

Photo provided by Sharon McMahon

There will be celebrations, cookouts, dinners out, and enjoyable gatherings for many this Father’s Day. For those who have lost their father or father-figure since last June, it is a more subdued day with reflection and, hopefully, celebration of a meaningful life. Personally, I was very gifted to have a wonderful Dad who taught me the importance of reading, treating others with humanity and respect, and having fun and who was a person of great integrity. His legacy lives on in my memory and the way I endeavor to live my life.

Braiding my long hair, trips to the Blue Ribbon Dairy for ice cream, teaching me to swim and ride a bike without training wheels, endless trips taking me to friends’ houses for parties, helping me with homework (especially math) cutting my steak hoping that would entice me to actually eat it (he could not process that I was a closet vegetarian!) and waiting up for me to be returned home safely from a date – just a few of those precious Dad memories which make me smile.

Knowing that I will once again see my dad in the future realm is an uplifting and happy thought so this Sunday, June 21, I will lift my glass to say “Happy Father’s Day, Daddy.”

Dads, you have an important job to do so be patient with yourselves, reach out for help or counseling if needed, and let your family know that you are committed and motivated to lead a strong family unit through this sometimes-uncertain world. Let your legacy be celebrated and treasured. And warm wishes to all you fathers, father-figures and fathers-to-be this Sunday!

Sharon McMahon – still Daddy’s girl!