“Intuition is always right in at least two important ways: It is always in response to something, it always has your best interest at heart … Intuition is always in our best interest because it is an unconscious act with only one purpose, survival.” – Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
Recent newsworthy events have caused me to reflect on the substance of a book I read about 20 years ago and how important being healthy, fit, sharp, and especially aware should be as part of every woman’s inner dialogue. I passed that book along to my daughter and shared copies with other young women I know.
I consider The Gift of Fear a must-read by any woman of any age. Author Gavin de Becker developed the MOSAIC threat assessment systems used by various agencies, including Los Angeles law enforcement, and is a widely regarded expert on security.
Let’s explore the importance of health and fitness in contributing to our personal safety.
Can you pick up that large bag of groceries or other items while out shopping so that it is unnecessary for you to accept help from a stranger? If you need to pick up your pace while walking, are you able to do so? Additionally, often the younger and older women are targets of malfeasance in our society because they may in inadvertently present as weaker physically and in attentiveness. A physically fit and strong woman may deter someone wishing to do harm.
One of the most significant suggestions in the book – and there are many – is the example of a woman being followed to her car and approached as she reaches the car. De Becker says do not yell “Help!” as unfortunately in our society most people are programmed to look away not knowing if there is a weapon involved or if the incident is domestic in nature. The best alternative, he suggests, is to yell “Fire!” as we are all interested and concerned about the source of a fire and will look in that person’s direction, thereby bringing attention to the potentially dangerous situation for the woman.
Another option that I have actually followed several times over the years is the one de Becker suggests if you know someone is watching you. Make certain that you look that person in the eye and they will know that you have seen them and can describe them. A woman with her head down, distracted, or appearing shy is a much easier target.
Regarding the two suggestions mentioned above: I actually discussed these specifically several years ago with a female detective I know and she agreed completely with de Becker’s assessments.* I recommend that you read his book, perhaps discuss with law enforcement representatives and/or professional security personnel to reinforce or take into consideration de Becker’s suggestions, and potentially share with those who can benefit.
Above all, stay well, stay fit, stay alert, stay safe.
*If you or someone you know is feeling threatened or in imminent danger contact law enforcement immediately.
Sharon McMahon, CNWC
The opinions expressed in this article are not intended to replace advice of your personal physician or licensed health professional. Please consult your physician for any issues you may have related to nutrition or fitness activity.