Go with the flow

By AMY SHANKLAND

Sandwiched

We hear it all the time. “Live in the moment.” “Focus on the present.” We’re told over and over again that this is the best way to live. If you’re like me, however, your reaction to this advice may be “Yeah … easier said than done.” Does anyone else have a mind that constantly loves to revisit the past and worry about the future?

Yep, I can practically see almost all of my readers’ hands raised in the air.

As I’m writing this, I paused to look at a work email. I’ve told myself over and over to only check emails first thing in the morning, right before lunch, right after lunch, and at the end of the day. Haha. I think I’ve been working on this for two years now.

It’s tough in our modern society to truly live in the moment when we’re pulled in all directions by so many forces. But, folks, it’s essential that we make this one of our top goals in life.

I recently found a book called Live Long, Die Short by Roger Landry, MD, MPH (thank you, Little Free Library!) I practically pounced in it. I’m always interested in improving my health – not just for myself but also for others. I want to be the best I can be to take care of the people I love. I started reading the book right away.

My jaw dropped when I saw that one of Dr. Landry’s top suggestions for living a longer, vibrant life well into old age was being able to truly live in the moment. I had never thought about this before, but now it makes sense to me.

To sum it up as briefly as possible, when we live in the moment, we’re not stressed. We’re just focused on the now and our minds and bodies are at ease. Essentially, we’re “going with the flow.”

I’ve heard about and tried to practice the “flow state” for years now. When we’re in the flow, we’re fully immersed and involved in whatever task we’re doing. A lot of times this brings us more enjoyment.

I’m often in this state when I’m reading a book, writing a grant proposal or novel, walking and enjoying nature, spending time with family and friends, or listening to music while hoop dancing. But I know I need to work on this even more – especially at night.

As we approach the end of the year, many of us will be focused on making New Year’s resolutions, which often fail. Dr. Landry suggests implementing baby steps instead.

I’m on vacation this week and I’ve told my team and clients that I will not be checking emails or chats. My goal is to give my brain a rest, and to live more in the present moment. I’ll reflect about how I did this coming Sunday and write down some baby steps to keep taking in 2022.

If you’re considering improving your health next year, I highly recommend reading this book and striving to “go with the flow” more often. This one small thing will help us be better members of the sandwich generation!