Remembering our fathers

Dear Editor,

Father’s Day: two words that can evoke feelings across the emotional spectrum. For some it is a time of celebration and gathering; for others possibly a feeling of recent loss or estrangement.

For most of us who have lost our fathers, it is a time of reflection and, hopefully, of mostly good memories. Some of those fathers were/are biological, some perhaps a “second” dad, or perhaps a grandfather, uncle, or other father figure.

If you are a new dad – congratulations! What a wonderful opportunity lies before you. The lessons you teach your child and the legacy you leave for your family are before you. If you are a dad of a teenager … well that can certainly be a challenging time, but it is all the more important for you to provide the guidance through these often-tumultuous years! If you an “older” dad (I will not attempt to define that!) you can see how your participation in your children’s lives are manifesting in their families and continue to offer your guidance, friendship, and of course unlimited love. I am in awe of and grateful for my husband Bruce as a wonderful father.

Photo provided by Sharon McMahon

As someone who lost her father when he was only 42, I can share with you that the love remains with you throughout your life. If you are of an age to remember “Ward Cleaver” then that is the best description I can provide of my dad. For those of you not in that age category, I will reflect that my dad was the most patient, kind, handsome, hardworking, funny, and giving father that any girl could imagine. Although I was a teenager when I lost him, he left me with a lifetime of wonderful memories and blessings.

There are many folks who have struggled with their father relationships, and I hope that if that is you that you have fostered another relationship with a father figure who can offer you friendship, support, and kindness as you travel this earthly road.

If you are a father figure for someone in need, thank you for your contribution and caring and Happy Father’s Day!

Sharon McMahon
Noblesville